Therefore, I think I now have to step in and explain some things.
(I have re-written this post about 30 times, so hopefully it will say what it needs to say without further offending anyone.)
I mean, I've been accused of meddling in children's lives and causing family disputes. How can I not respond to that?
First, you guys have some awesome, well thought out and totally solid opinions that you are not afraid to share, and I love that.
I think discussions are good and I appreciate everyone keeping it clean and respecting all those involved.
Secondly, I never ever ever ever ever meant for this morning's post to cause SO much drama. I was simply blowing off steam. I felt like an opportunity had been taken from me without a valid reason and I needed to get my feelings out.
(Because it's my blog and I can do that.)
I did not name names, or even fully explain what had happened because I was attempting to keep the parties involved anonymous. Like I said earlier, I was Just. Venting.
This is the whole point of having a blog.
Obviously it is not so anonymous anymore, and that was not my choice.
Thirdly, I have never claimed that this blog is only about bubbles, unicorns and rainbows. This is a personal accounting of my life; the good the bag and the hotness.
(OOOH, maybe I'll change my blog name to that. I kind of dig it.)
In 90% of my posts, I don't use names. Yes, I may write about other individuals, but I try to keep the focus off of them and on me.
(Except Hubs. Because he's got the thickest skin of anybody I know. And he secretly loves the all the attention.)
So here we go...
My Hallmark entry was a b-day card. It featured a photograph because...well, those were the rules.
I love photography, I take pictures of my friends/food/caterpillars/faucets what have you. And my family is well aware of this.
I went through my 3583498 pictures and narrowed to about 19 I considered entering. An awesome pic of my niece B made the final cut. She made an adorable fishy face that I was lucky enough to capture.
(And, that very picture has been posted on the Internet. On this very blog. Right here. It has been seen by the parent(s) and never complained about even once.)
The caption I selected for the birthday card was clean, funny and cute.
When I submitted the card in the competition, I never expected anything would come of it. I mean, yeah, I'm kind of awesome in my own circle of friends, but competing with thousands of other funny writers? I don't hold a candle.
When I entered this contest, my intentions were to do something cool and make someone SMILE.
Then I got the call that my card was chosen and that I had to get permission from the parents for their child to be on the card. No problemo.
I contacted my whole family, so excited that I nearly forgot how to type. I informed SIL (siter in law) and let her know that I'd be sending a release form to sign so B could be on the card.
My SIL texted me and informed me that she was not comfortable with her daughter's picture on a card for millions of people to see.
My initial reaction was surprise, but I assumed that SIL was worried that the card had dirty content or made fun of her daughter in some way. Which I totally get.
So, I sent SIL a long email showing that the contest was absolutley legit, and that her child's name would not be seen by ANYONE but Hallmark.
I received an email back stating that the problem SIL had with the card was the fact that anyone with money could purchase a picture of her daughter.
Hold the phone.
There's no way that can be true. And here's why.
a) a blog. Blog has picture of daughter and daughter's name on it. Anyone can view this blog. They don't need money. They can print that picture at any time.
b) SIL has a Facebook page. With huge picture of daughter on it. Millions of people can print this picture.
c) I have a blog with SIL's daughter and step-son all over it. Have had this blog for over a year that SIL is well aware of, and have never heard a complaint.
I have to wonder, if the issue is really that people can purchase a picture on a Hallmark card, why is it not an issue that there are free pictures of her everywhere else?
Now, I will say, SIL is probably correct when she stated that I should have asked permission before submitting my card idea. But honestly? The thought just never entered my mind.
In hindsight, I maybe should have wondered if SIL would have a problem with her daughter's picture on a Hallmark card.
So...I have learned my lesson. I am truly sorry if I offended anyone.
The last thing I want is people pissed off at me, family or otherwise. I wasn't being malicious or mean spirited or trying to meddle. My intentions were completely innocent.
(But then, you know what they say about good intentions.)
I will take this moment to again apologize to my SIL (because I already apologized once in a private email) if I stepped on her toes as a mother. It was not my intention in the least. I know someday Baby B will know that, too.
We have a difference of opinion, but it's over. The picture isn't going to be published, and no one can purchase B's face for $3.95.
Like I said in my original post, there will be other opportunities for me to participate in competitions. I will get over it. It isn't the end of the world.
Look, bottom line. I am not a mind reader and I am human. I entered the contest based on what I thought I knew of SIL and her opinions.
I will not apologize for expressing my feelings on this blog, because as I mentioned earlier, that is what this blog is for. The great thing about it is...if you don't like what is being said, don't open the page.
I do it all the time.
On a lighter note, it's Friday! And it's going to be gorgeous this weekend. Get out and enjoy it!