Thursday, December 30, 2010

survey says...

I thought I was done blogging for 2010, but decided to squeeze one more post in. 

(Mostly because Hubs leaves for work at 6.15 and I can't go back to sleep and need something to do before diving into work for the day.)

I saw this survey on Perfectly Cursed Life and decided it was worth filling out.  I love fill in the blanks, which is maybe why I never turn down an opportunity to do a Mad Lib...

End of 2010 Survey:
1. What did you do in 2010 that you’d never done before?

Climbed 7 very intense waterfalls in the Dominican Republic on vacation in December.  Exhilerating, crazy, scary and wonderful.
2. Did you keep your New Years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

See yesterday's post.

3. What countries did you visit?

The Dominican Republic.
4. What would you like to have in 2011 that you lacked in 2010?

More time with our daughters, and a sold house.

 5. What date from 2010 will remain etched upon your memory?

I seriously don't have one.  I'm beyond awful with dates.  I did have many days throughout the year that will be etched in my memory.  I just don't know what the actual dates are.

6. What was your biggest achievement of the year??

Getting three new magazine writing gigs, all in one month.  Hard work and passion really do pay off.

7. What was your biggest failure?

Not speaking my mind at times when I definitely should have.

8. Did you suffer illness or injury?

I had a sore throat at Thanksgiving. I suffered many inuries, all at the expense of clumsyness. Thankfully none were life threatening.

9. What was the best thing you bought?

I can't tell.  It's Hubs' 30th birthday present.  I'll have pictures later...

10. Whose behavior merited celebration?

My friend Tracy.  I saw some big changes in her attitude and look on life. We had a rough go for awhile, but we seem to have come out the other end with a smile.

11. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

Whoever decided to post really nasty comments about me and my family on this blog.  Also a few other people, and they know who they are.

12. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Our trip to the Dominican Republic. And my first work trip to go see a Packer's game in Green Bay. And seeing my work in print for HerLife Magazine, Shawnee Magazine, 435 South Magazine, and Generation Boom.
13. What song will always remind you of 2010?

"California Girls" by Katy Perry and anything from Lady Gaga's "Monster" album.
14. Compared to this time last year, are you happier or sadder?

This last year was really, really hard.  Hubs' was out of work, we felt like we were in limbo with the basement not being finshed, and things seemed out of sorts.  Now I feel like the world is starting to come back into focus. But it's an adjustment period. We still haven't sold our house, I still feel like we're getting the shaft when it comes to custody with the girls, and we're having to play catch-up with bills and finances from the year that Hubs was unemployed.  But we're getting I'm going to say I'm happier and more hopeful toward the future.

15. What do you wish you’d done more of?

I need to try more adventurous endeavors.  The waterfall climbing in the Dom Republic was a real eye-opener.  Yes, I had help climbing the falls, but I did it.  It was by far the most dangerous thing I've ever done, and I loved every second of it.  I think I'd like to see what else I'm capable of this year. I just might surprise myself.

16. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Stress the eff out.

17. How will you be spending Christmas?

Spent it with family and the girls.

18. Did you fall in love in 2010?

I fall in love with Hubs every day.

19. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

I strongly dislike a few people, but I try not to focus on it.

20. What was the best book you read?

I re-read "The Devil Wears Prada" after a two year hiatus, and I liked it just as much as the first time I read it.
21. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Justin Bieber.  Oh wait, greatest?  I thought that said most annoying.

22. What did you want and get?

A better understanding and more confidence in my job, a deeper relationship with Hubs, and a lot of cheese.  I got them all.

23. What did you want and not get?

A thinner waistline while eating lots of cheese.

24. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 29 on March 3, and I honestly can't remember what we did.  I think Hubs and I went out to dinner.

25. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Finishing my novel.

26. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2010?

Comfort and practicality over high fashion, mostly because of our budget constrictions. I didn't buy a lot of new clothes this year. 2010 was definitely a sweatshirt year.  However, I got great boots from Hubs for Christmas, so I might be coming out of that funk.

27. What kept you sane?

Lots of music, Hubs and my friends.

28. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

I always really dig Diane Keaton this time of year.  Mostly because I watch "The Family Stone" about 13 million times.

I've also become a fan of Giuliana and Bill Rancic.  Don't laugh.  I watch their show on the Style Network, and I'm a fan of their relationship.  I think they both seem like very grounded people who love each other and work at their relationship every day.  Watching their infertility struggles is sad, and it makes me wonder what kinds of struggles Hubs and I will face as we go forward in life. Whatever they are, I know we can handle them together.
29. Who was the best new person you met?

I met a super cool client this year, hoping to further our business relationship as we go along.

30. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2010?

Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming swimming swimming....

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

may I make a suggestion?

For years I've attempted to make New Year's resolutions.  And every single year, before the clock strikes twelve on February 1st, I have already broken every one of them.

This year I decided instead of resolutions, I would simply make suggestions for myself. With suggestions, I don't feel like a miserable nincompoop *if* (aka *when*) I don't live up to them.

(I figure, I can't possibly be alone in this. Feel free to share your failures struggles with me.)

Here's my list for the new year:

Kim's 2011 Suggestions For Herself

1)  I Suggest You Not Turn 30:  Okay, I don't actually have control over this.  30 is going happen whether I like it or not.  So let's rephrase and make it this instead:

1) I Suggest You Deny That You've Turned 30: This isn't going to work either. I've already told too many people. Let's try this:

1) I Suggest You Graciously Accept That Turning 30 Can Be a Good Thing and Hold Your Head High With Dignity:  God, I'm really striking out here.  How about...

1) I Suggest You Cry Like a Crazed Justin Beiber Fan, Show Everyone Your Wrinkles, and Have a Nervous Breakdown When You Turn 30:   Easy enough.

Moving on...

2) I Suggest You Re-evaluate the Relationships in Your Life: 

This is doable. And probably necessary.  Have you ever noticed that some relationships in your life (friends, relatives, work colleagues, etc) have been around a little too long?  It's not that they're bad, but maybe they've run their course. 

I have a really hard time with this.  I like to think that every relationship I've ever had is worth saving and clinging onto for dear life just because I hate the idea of saying good-bye.  But over the last year, I've noticed that some of the people I used to truly love, respect and appreciate are starting to love, respect and appreciate me just a little less.  

Hubs always says, "You need to look at your friendships from a Return on Investment (ROI) standpoint."  

(Hubs isn't even finance-y, but when he talks like Bill Rancic, I get all excited.)

(And then I like to imagine I look like Giuliana Rancic.)

Anyways, Hubs says, "If you're putting in all the effort, but aren't getting anything back out, it isn't worth the time and energy."

The man has a point.

I guess I've always subscribed to the notion that the more people in your life, the better off you are. Seems logical. In reality, if the peeps you're investing time, energy, money or emotions into aren't giving it back, then you're just kind of...pathetic?

I mean, think of it this way. If your refrigerator blitzes and the repairman tells you it's kaput, you don't go to the ATM and throw a bunch of money at it.  YOU GO GET THE NEW WOLF PRO 48 GLASS DOOR FRIDGE...

The point is, if I'm holding onto friendships that have gone stale, I'm preventing new ones that could potentially be even better. 

(Like my potential BFF-ness with Giuliana Rancic.)

Another other thing I need to re-evaluate this year are the people whose opinions I choose to worry about.  

(I've mentioned before that I'm a certified Needer-of-Love.)

(Hubs calls it "Insecurity" or something ridiculous like that.) 

Basically, I like to be liked. It bothers me when I'm not. I'm fun, I'm outgoing, I'm only sometimes incredibly annoying.  What's not to like? But the truth is, it's inevitable that not everyone is going to like me.  It's just the way it is.  And if I plan on having any semblance of sanity as I progress in years, I'm going to have to learn to deal with it. So...

I need to make sure that I'm truly only concerned with the opinions of people who are important in my life. Hubs, my family, my close friends.  Random people on Facebook/Twitter/This Blog who may or may not think I'm the spawn of Satan shouldn't affect my day to day life or how I feel about myself. If I'm okay with the people I love, then I'm doing pretty good. So. There.

3) I Suggest if Someone Doesn't Like You, You Kidnap Them, Tie Them to a Chair, and Demand to Know Why:  Let's try again.

3) I Suggest You Accept That Not Everyone Can Like/Love/Adore You All the Time. And That Is Okay: I can live with this.  I think.

4) I Suggest You Cut Dr. Pepper Out of Your Diet:  And I suggest you kiss my sugary soda-lovin' ass. (Fine, how about this?  I'll cut back to only once a week.  Maybe twice.)

Update: Since this post, I have gone over 2 weeks without the liquid satan otherwise known as Dr. Pepper. It can be done!

5) I Suggest You Make This the Year You're Finally 100% Comfortable With Yourself: This is a tall order, but I do promise to try.  I heard it doesn't truly happen until you're in your 40's.  Or until you watch enough Oprah.

6) I Suggest You Quit Laying Around and Finish Your Novel Already: Fine, fine, fine!  It'd be a lot easier if I could figure out the ending. And step away from this blog for five minutes. And get a job that lets me stay home and write all day.  And, ya know, have a guarantee that it will be published.

No excuses, I'll get it done.

7) I Suggest You Love Hubs and Your Step-Daughters With Every Ounce of Yourself, and Let Them Love You Back:  Done and done.

Happy New Year, bloggies ! I'll see you in 2011!

Monday, December 27, 2010

Christmas makes for some really great eavesdropping

Location:  A crowded Panera on Christmas Eve-Eve.

Mom: Honey, stand still, please.

Young Daughter: MOMMY!!!! I don't want to stand here.  Is hot and cold!

Mom: I know, honey.  It's hot in here, and when the door opens it gets cold. We'll move in just a second when the line moves.

Young Daugher: There's no line at McDonalds.


Location: The mall bathroom in Iowa. 

Mom: Honey, STOP IT! Leave the toilet paper alone while Mommy goes potty.

Toddler Daughter: NOOOOOO! I want...I want...(glurb)...(huff and puff) cream.

Mom: No, we're not having ice cream.

Toddler Daughter: WAHHHHHHH!!!!!

Mom:  (voice spiraling into desperation) DO YOU WANT SANTA TO SKIP OUR HOUSE? Because he will, Haley.  He will skip right over it and I won't stop him.


Location: In the check-out line at Target. Two teenage girls behind me.

Girl 1: Shit, was this watch $40 or $50?

Girl 2: Um, I think $40.  

Girl 1:  Is that too cheap?

Girl 2: I dunno.  What's he getting you?

Girl 1: (sighs) I don't know.  I told him I wanted an iPod.

Girl 2: Can he afford that, though?  

Girl 1:  Probably not.  I can't really afford to get this, either though. 

Girl 2: Then don't get it.  You already got him the Blue Ray player.

Girl 1: Now it's fine, I'm putting it on my Target card.

Me: (slamming head into magazine rack) 


Location: Sports store trying to exchange a gift for Hubs that was the wrong size....on the day after Christmas.

Me: (placing bag on the counter) Hi, I need to exchange this sweatshirt.  It's the wrong size. I have a gift receipt.

Sales Girl: Okay.

Me:  (laughing) The thing is, I have three different gift receipts for the same sweatshirt, and I don't know which one goes with this sweatshirt.

Sales Girl:  (not amused) What?

Me:  Okay, um,(considering drawing a picture) three of us all got this same sweatshirt for Christmas.  I only need to exchange one, but I have three different gift receipts.  See? (holding up all three gift receipts) I don't know which gift receipts goes with this sweatshirt. Can you figure that out?

Sales Girl: Okay. (typing...scanning...scowling...typing....scanning...scowling...typing...scanning...scowling) None of these gift receipt is right.

Me: That's impossible.  These are the only gift receipts I have.  Can you try again?

Sales Girl: No, I already tried.

Me: (shifting my weight from foot to foot) Well, does it really matter anyway?  I have the tags on the sweatshirt still.  Can't I just do the exchange for the right size?

Sales Girl: Oh.  Yeah, that's true.

Me: (shrugging shoulders) It's okay, I probably made it more complicated than it needed to be.

Sales Girl: So, wait.  Do you need a gift receipt for this, then?


Hope you all had a very Merry Christmas and have a wonderful New Year's!